Do you also suffer from the same problem!

You sit on your computer to do some important work, but then suddenly you think let me check the Gmail and the Facebook (who knows! There is something important waiting for me to respond to.)

You open your Gmail account first and see that’s it the same boring old mails, no bonus or nothing (while it’s Diwali time) and only your office colleague’s are online and if you said hi to anyone of them, you know they will start their stories of  ‘right now also working late in night(or kaise lagi padi hain) & you close your Gmail account as fast as you opened.

Now, let’s move to the interesting stuff –Facebook and the top bar shows 1 new friend request, 3 new notifications and you get excited (Finally, she has send the friend request & now I see her beautiful pics and also see who is this ugly guy for whom she never gives you a single glance also.

And then you open the friend request and you find it’s a request from your young brother who is still in 7^th and in no way you want him to see your pics and see your wall.

Ok, life can’t be so bad and you think of checking the notifications and there you go.. One of your girlfriend is getting married and she has send you a invite to the event & you feel, fuck! Here goes another gorgeous! God please leave one for me (or you forgot to make anyone for me this time & send this fucking Facebook to let me know about it everyday.)

Second notification:- Someone has put up a Diwali greetings with hundred’s tag along with it and now whenever someone says happy Diwali ,you are notified while u have never met this person and may never meet also. But still Happy Diwali to you also…. (At this point you wish why don’t people just have one god, so that we can have only festival and all these notifications can come in one go)

Third Notification: - One of your beautiful friend has just uploaded some new pics and you forget about your important work and decide to check them out.

1^st pic: - She is looking as gorgeous as ever and you think to like the pic but 20 people have already liked it. Shit! It has been uploaded just 15 min back and it’s 11. 25 p.m., was the whole world was just waiting for her to upload the pictures.

You think no worries; you will like some shit photo of her, which no one else has liked. You check 4-8 more photographs but she is looking gorgeous in every pic (It’s definitely a true statement “Beauty is in the eye of beholder” but how the hell everyone was able to see it…(It never happens when I upload my portraits).

Then you flip some more photograps and you come across a pic of a boy kissing the girl and the whole Indian tradition comes across your eyes and you start thinking that what is happening to the whole world but after some time your senses come back and you start thinking ‘What a crap choice she has’ ‘it would have been 1000 times better if it was me…waise bhi she is not so bad’.  ‘The boy must have influenced her, she can’t do this’.

And then you keep checking the picturess till they get over and then once again you check the whole album while at the same time seeing that the likes have doubled till the last time, and then you realize that you sat on computer thinking that you have some important work to do and you in quick succession close all the tabs and try to remove her thoughts from your mind.

i.e. to come back and check your email account after 15 min and then thinking ‘Chalo facebook bhi check kar lete hain, kya baat is baar uski friend request aa jaye’.

Fuck up my Indian thinking, my thoughts and this fucking Facebook notification but one thing is really sure she really is more than her beautiful face and that pic would have been thousand times better if she was with me. But then, we are not living in the ideal world and in this world only the monkeys are eating all the apples.

Disclaimer: - I was not drunk when I was writing this article and also this article is not the depiction of my frustration (May be just a concern for that sweet girl).

Hey! Also it’s not that it’s only boys who face this situation, I do know that girls also stalk boys profiles.

Hey! I have to go …May be there is something interesting notification or that girl has switched to single (This facebook just keep me on my toes every moment)

My Love is just like….

So, I was teaching a rhyme to my kid which was by Ken Nesbitt when I realize that somehow the writer must have thought about this rhyme after hearing my love story or some similar story.

This rhyme is really beautiful and it talks about the ‘Sun and the Moon’ and how they are best friends but still they are never able to meet. In this rhyme he talks about that irrespective of the fact that they work in harmony and do know that their true worth is only realized because of the presence of the other but still they have sacrificed their friendship for the bigger role i.e. for the betterment of society. He further says that still being aware of the fact that one friend can’t meet the other they don’t forget the other and still remember them whenever they dream(or when they have time). Isn’t it a nice rhyme!

So coming back to the topic ‘my love is same like the love of the sun and the moon’ i.e. irrespective of the fact that I may not be able to meet her ever again but still I love her from the bottom of my heart and many times her image is only one which comes when I dream of a girl with whom I may want spend my rest of the life.

While I still haven’t told her anything and the reason is not that I am afraid of her being No but what if she says YES. Am I really worth of her love and would I be able to really suffix her happiness.

While I do get my inspiration from her and would be still getting it in future but I do know that some relations are only good till they are kept in the heart of the lovers.

Quite Unconditional but it’s true.

Barefoot-Another Miracle of Love

A real life story that proves yet again that in the midst of all the suffering and pain, there is still space for love and kindness.

In the soft afternoon light which filtered through the stained glass windows of a modest church in a village in Holland, we were witness to a miracle of love.

It all began 24 years earlier, in an orphanage in Karachi, Pakistan. An abandoned, severely malnourished baby girl was rescued by workers of an austere orphanage, run valiantly by a formidable but compassionate Dutch nun. They named her Raphaele. The doctors found that she had a hole in her heart, and needed early surgery and sophisticated healthcare if she was to survive. But this was beyond the resources of the orphanage. An appeal was circulated across Holland for parents who may wish to adopt the infant, who would otherwise die.

In Holland, a Dutch business consultant, Ferdinand van Koolwijk, and his wife Loes, a nurse, decided spontaneously to adopt the baby. They were on a plane to Karachi a few days later. They found a sickly thin baby, but she seemed immediately at peace in Loes' arms. It was love at first sight.

Unexpected saviour

They had only a week to conclude the legal formalities to adopt Raphaele. She needed urgent medical attention to survive. But Pakistan's bureaucracy is no less daunting than in any other nation. People suggested they hire the services of a leading Parsi lawyer Rustam Kaikobad. The eccentric and somewhat dry attorney quizzed the Dutch couple, and then agreed to take up the case. He himself typed reams of paper on his noisy manual typewriter, took the couple to a whirlwind of court-rooms and peeling government offices, and finally even managed to persuade the authorities to let the baby travel without a passport. All in a week, and when they departed, he refused to accept even one rupee as fee.

In Holland, with love, good food and medical attention, Raphaele quickly healed, and blossomed. Before long, she was indistinguishable from other Dutch children, except for the colour of her skin and hair. She was spirited, ebullient and affectionate, and her parents were very proud of her.

Another blow

No, a very Important word for love

I never thought I would be writing an article on this topic but somehow I thought that you all should know about it before falling in love or in the initial stage of love only.

Love in reality is a lot complicated but this simple word ‘No’ can really simplify it a bit (saying this from my experience). I have to say that I was never a master in using this great word but lately I have started using more of it and found my life getting easy.(Thanks to all my friends).

I used to have a friend in my college days whom I really liked but she was having a habit of always criticizing me about one issue or the other, which always used to upset me after talking to her, but I guess it was me only who has to be blamed as I was the one making most of the calls. I continued this for 3yrs during my college and also 1 yr after the college but she didn’t improvise and always used to make me feel like I am talking to a dictator rather than a friend.

My friends use to tell me that she doesn’t love me but when did a lover listened to truth and I always kept making calls to her but one day I told her that if she continued this nagging thing then I have to discontinue the talk, but she kept going and then at that particular moment, I disconnected the call and wow! What a relief I felt… Amazing how light I felt by ignoring her…

Sometimes I do felt that I didn’t did the right thing and may be I should have tried some more to make her understand me but sometimes you have to take the hard decision, you have to put a bar somewhere.

I don’t know with how many of you this has happened that sometimes you feel like being dragged by love i.e. you are doing something just because of being pressurized by the other partner.

But, love never drag anyone and everything done in love is from the heart and it always provide pleasure to the doer and from whom it is being done.(It may sound too philosophical but then it’s love ,which is compared equal to god and I think that there is nothing more philosophical then these two.)

I am just saying this for both the partners in love, that love does bring sorrows but those sorrows also have some pleasure in them. So, if at some point you start feeling like ‘what the hell is going here!’ and you can’t think any future of that relationship after 5 yrs (ok! If that’s too much lets say 2 yrs) than don’t waste your time, devote your time with some other person, there would definitely be someone else who share the same feelings as you.

Loves demands commitments and if you don’t have the courage to face all those commitments then do convey it to your partner and if he/she understands than he/she definitely loves you else you will always feel pressurized under the pressure of love(which love never does) and would get confused b/w true love and material love.

True and Sad love story

This is a true and sad love story of an Engineering student….

A guy was deeply in love with his classmate…

One day he proposed to her,

But the girl got very angry and threatened him that she would complain to the principal even if he ever bothers her again…

One day the girl borrowed a text book from that boy and wrote a message in that book,

“I love you too and I am sorry to hurt you the other day…

If you have forgiven me, please come and talk to me and never leave me”

But the guy never talked to her…

4 years went away and nothing happened…!

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*Moral of the story*

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*Engineering boys never open their books!!!*

Source:- Internet...

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Why should we be careful while using those three magical words ‘ I love you’

As it has been already stated ‘magical’ so definitely something happens when these three words are spoken to some other person, but two instances are most common:-
1st Instance
Boy to Girl:-’I love you! dear’
Girl to Boy:-What!
Boy to Girl:-That,i love you. I love your smile, the way you talk and would like to live with..........
Girl Interrupts:- We are just good friends and i have never thought like that for you, and how could u do so....and run away

2nd Situation:-
Boy to Girl:-Hey ‘I love you! Jaan’
Girl to Boy:- Can’t you be somehow romantic
Boy holding Girl’s hand:- You have the most beautiful eyes i have ever seen, whenever i sit with you all my fears vanish and i would like to spend rest of my life with.......
while the girl start running while speaking....I do love you too...

I do know there can be thousand other instances/situations like where the girl loves your best friend or girl says I am suffering from TB and my life is left for very short span.....or anything but here in this article we would be using the two most common instances which i am sure you all must have faced in someway or the other.


Ok now, these two instances shows the ‘Magic’ of these magical words but has anyone thought ‘What are its ramifications .
The boy in the first instance would now start drinking blaming the girl(which is not correct) and surely he would not remain friend with the girl as in the past....Sorry! you poor chap...


In the 2nd instance, the boy would be roaming more with this girl of his dreams ,taking her to parks, restaurants while making future plans and feeling happy of being accepted by the beautiful girl.
But now, he has started spending less time with his hostel mates,friends and also started staying in hostel on the weekends . He also have to report daily to the girl and worst part 'He is now committed and can't see other girls...
His friends have started calling him by that girl name and his parents have started questioning his subtle change in his priorities.
So,don't you think things would have been better for both if they hadn't used the three magical words 'I love you' and also then they don't have to accept the whole lot of miseries and responsibilities that come along with it.
Saying 'I love you' is like standing on the cliff which is too steep on one side and there is a ravine on the other.
So if you are rejected you fall directly into the ravine and your story ends on the other side 'if you are lucky' and the girl accept your proposal, you experience extreme pleasure like when a kid rolls down the steep slope of the hill but he forgets that to again enjoy this happiness he has to move back to the top of the mountain which would be difficult and cumbersome.


Ok! i do know that you all must be knowing many friends of yours who have used these words and some of you use these magical words because of your insecurity that 'If you don't use it someone else will and would fly away with your girl'.

And if that girl was so impatient that she couldn't understand your love also and accepted some one else proposal just because you didn't proposed, so dear don't waste your precious emotions. There is a beautiful quote which says 'If something/Someone is leaving you, let her leave you; Because, it was truly yours only if it comes back to you else it was never yours.'
Secondly, do leave this job of expressing 'I love you' to your eyes and body posture as they do a better job in communicating emotions than the 'mouth'.


P.S.:- Written from a boy's perspective and this article is not written to hurt any feelings or emotions and if you feel hurt ,plz let me know.

Solving a very difficult riddle …Do help me out

God made three kinds of people:-some beautiful, some not so beautiful and some ugly and whenever we are given the choice we always choose the first option irrespective of how that person is at heart.

I do guess that at some point or the other boys must have faced the dilemma that first they never find beautiful girl alone and when they move with their friends most of the time in groups of 2 or max 3, they find that beautiful girl is with a ugly girl/not so beautiful girl and we always want to talk to beautiful girl without considering that may the other girl is the most beautiful girl at heart and may be this ‘so called beautiful’ is not so beautiful at heart; but who cares and we try our luck on the beautiful one only, right! And as we try, the first one to respond to our conversation is that other girl and she is again the first one to give us smile and sometimes also helps us in linking up with the so called ‘beautiful girl’ may be because she thinks that this boy may be able to see her real beauty or may be she thinks that this boy knows the real meaning of true beauty.

One Day before the Valentine

You must have guessed the day, yes it’s 13th and today is Sunday .Whenever this 14th Feb comes I start planning one week before hoping that I would be having some true friend with whom I can spend my time on 14th . But for waiting that true(she) friend I have wasted more than 14 years but still waiting for her..But, truly no probs as people say that ‘it always time to ripe a fruit’ ,so may be…

This time also I had some girls in my mind with whom I would have loved to spend my time, but I was knowing many of their responses like ‘Prashant! Why Me’ , ‘I am already going out with someone’ or ‘I don’t go out on 14th’ .Wow! great and fearing these stupid questions and the rejection part I didn’t called anyone. But I made a plan lets spend this Sunday i.e. 13th with my pals .

So I gave them a call on 12th and everyone agreed(How easily they agreed ,I hope girls also understand that boy and girl can also be good friends) and we made a plan to meet at Connaught place.

But, God has thought something else for us only; I was just having my breakfast when I received a sms in which it was written ‘Congratulations! You have a couple ticket to 13th Feb TOI ‘Aman Ki Asha’ Concert.

Wow! But the ticket is just for 2 and I have invited four friends and they would just kill me if I just hinted them also about dropping today’s plan. I also thought to give a call to some girl and take her to the concert, but then I was knowing their stupid questions which would really be difficult for me to handle.

So, I decided ‘Kuch Na kuch toh ho hi jayega’ and I made a duplicate SMS the story of which is a different story in Itself but we were able to fool TOI and get entry to the Concert (all 4 of us)

It was a concert by Shankar Ehsaan Loy and a Pakistan Singer. We sang with them, we danced or I should say we literally rocked with them..it was awesome and I never realized how the time flung away till I saw my watch striking 9 p.m. and everyone of us realized their office and college Schedule for the Monday.

We travelled the Metro while still mesmerized in the Ehsaan Songs and when I think back, I realize that I would have never been able to enjoy so much as with my friends if I was with some girl.

So for me Valentine is a day to celebrate with friends and have a good time (irrespective of girl or boy) and I wish that some girls(beauty with brain) combination. ya! I know it’s difficult to find ..But just Hoping….

Happy Valentine to all of You
Prashant Agarwal